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He's Just Not That Into You

from by Melissa Dinwiddie

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While on the quest to find my life partner, I realized I really didn't understand men. So I set out to on a course of study, which started with a read of the self-help book, He's Just Not That Into You (which in turn started out as an episode of Sex and the City -- oh, what a tangled web!) The book was eventually made into a feature film, but first it inspired this song (which, if you ask me, should have been used over the closing credits of the movie, but I'll admit I'm a bit biased).


First verse
You went out on a date,
You think he’s really great.
He hasn’t called; you don’t know what to do.
Perhaps he’s sick, or maybe busy,
But ask yourself girl, really, is he?
Truth is he’s just not that into you!

That cute guy at your gym
For months you’ve pined for him.
You laugh and flirt and smile, and he does too.
You like each other, there’s no doubt,
But if the guy won’t ask you out,
Face it, he’s just not that into you!

A man’s a simple creature, it’s really not that hard
To figure out an answer, no or yes.
Here’s a little secret that may catch you off guard:
A guy who’s into you won’t make you guess!

He calls you on the phone
To see if you’re alone.
He drops by for an hour, or maybe two.
You start to wonder is this all,
Or are you just a booty call?
Girlfriend, he’s just not that into you!

Second verse
You never thought you’d weather
So many years together.
You wonder if you’ll ever say “I do.”
But he says even with a halter
You’ll never drag him to the altar,
Which tells me he’s just not that into you!

You’re crazy mad about him,
You just can’t live without him,
Though he has other lovers, quite a few.
He says he just can’t stick with one.
My advice to you is “Run!”
‘Cause this one, he’s just not that into you!

Girls, why do we settle for anything that’s less
Than everything we know that we deserve?
You tell me that you love him, and yet you still confess,
You’d leave him if you only had the nerve!

You had a little fling.
You knew he wore a ring,
But that’s okay, he swears he loves you too.
You know you’d have the perfect life
If he would only leave his wife…
Wake up! He’s just not that into you!

TAG: You’ll be better in the long run,
Just accept that he’s the wrong one!
Girlfriend, he’s just not that into you!

copyright ©2008 Melissa Dinwiddie


from My Ukulele (The Naked Sessions), released August 6, 2012
Melissa Dinwiddie - vox, ukulele


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Melissa Dinwiddie

Is this jazz, folk, or comedy? Performer (& “Uke-Diva”) Melissa Dinwiddie is a winning combination of all three. Inspired by the absurdities of modern life, Dinwiddie crafts songs evocative of the Great American Songbook but dealing with 21st Century themes. She has an ear for a witty turn of phrase, and her vocal chops and improvisational comic timing delight audiences of all ages. ... more

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